FIGHT FOR THE HEART
by Reggie Joiner
I distinctly remember having a conversation with my oldest daughter one night when I was tucking her into bed. It was one of those days when she had gotten in about as much trouble as a five-year-old can. Right before I turned out the lights, I was compelled to ask her this question: “Do you think I love you more when you’re good or more when you’re bad?”
She immediately responded, “You love me more when I’m good!” My heart sank when I realized that was her perception of our relationship. I tried to apologize to her and started that night repeating to her over time, “I hope you will always remember that I love you the same when you are good or bad.”
It’s so easy for us to make the rules more important than the relationship. It’s in the tone of our voice, our body language, and our eyes. If we are not careful, disappointment in our kids' behavior can be translated into their hearts as rejection . . .